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September 03, 2002
 The Quiet One
Dorothea wrote two related articles recently, The Sickening Grunch and Running with it. The Sickening Grunch focused on the term 'sexy', and the whole scene of being made into a sex object by those who are, bluntly, the product of much in-breeding. Though there is much that I agree with in this article, I am with Andrea in that I have this strong urge to drive up to Madison to sit with Dorothea over a cup of coffee and have a chat about hating one's body. To me, body and mind are a package deal, and we need to accept and cherish both (and to hell with other's standards of beauty). In the second article, Dorothea continues her discussion about a female gaming character that she introduced in the first article, Fechan. She writes a fascinating story about subverting the character when the GM (Gaming Master) decreed that her character was going to be 'comely', something Dorothea emphatically didn't want. I have more that I want to say about the second essay, but I'm not sure how to say it. So for now, I'll post the link and pick up this thread a little bit later in the week after I've had some time to think on it. Posted by Bb at September 03, 2002 05:21 PM Comments
I have more to say, but don't let that stop you. Oh, and contrary to the vibes I have been putting out lately, my face does *not* in fact scare small children. Just so you know. :) Posted by: Dorothea Salo on September 3, 2002 07:40 PMWow. Dorothea, that is great stuff. I'm just stumbling on all these issues myself, at 40, and finding my grunching goes way back to my childhood--my mother actually. This isn't a "blame mom" kind of woman--me I mean. Until this year, I actually never saparated from her--something I hear most healthy children do in their adolesence--and was her staunch defender, her best friend, her biggest fan, and her puppet. So this grunching thing comes as particularly timely for me, and woman grunch women too, and sometimes our own families, and sometimes that's worse? Posted by: jeneane on September 3, 2002 07:44 PMYes, sometimes it is... I myself managed to separate from Mom at about 20, which was at least ten years too late. I have been reading about your struggle, Jeneane, and am greatly in sympathy with it. Good luck to you. Posted by: Dorothea Salo on September 3, 2002 08:06 PMDorothea, well, good. I guess I won't appear on your doorstep and drag you out for coffee now ;-) I am looking forward to reading more of what you had to write on this. And your description of the subversion of Fechan was amazing. Jeneane, that was a tie in that I didn't realize myself until you said it. But women do grunch women, too. It's odd that sometimes we only see these things from only one perspective until someone comes along and taps us on the shoulder with "By the way..." Thanks Posted by: Shelley aka Bb on September 3, 2002 08:10 PMThe doorstep is yours to appear on whenever you care to, Bb. A day's warning will give me a chance to dust the guest room. :) Posted by: Dorothea Salo on September 3, 2002 08:51 PMIt's really great to see someone who doesn't appear to be a gamer talk about the experiences of gamers seriously. Thanks, Shelley! Posted by: Ginger on September 3, 2002 10:07 PMPost a comment
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